ATG and C
A whole series of "dates" with American Teacher Girl, which really are no longer true "dates" but going to a direction beyond that, is commencing. Most of them at her place (as it is conveniently close to both our work places. My workplace is almost on her route to her home, so she picks me up after work).
Last Friday was the first time she was at my home (we had a date at My Town earlier, but didn't visit my home), where I made a dinner for her. She seemed to like my little place.
It was a very fine evening, with one slightly awkward moment though. At my place, she noted the framed photograph of C., which is on one of the bookshelves above my dinner table. She asked whether that was C. (I had told her the story of C. and me and how C. died earlier) and next asked: "now is she going to stare at me that way all through the dinner?" and made some further remarks the gist of which was that it made her feel uncomfortable. Next she went out for a smoke. I was and am not so willing to remove C.'s portrait. I solved by turning the frame so the photograph faced towards the wall temporarily.
I had one short e-mail contact with Married Woman a week ago. She asked me how the dates with American Teacher Girl are going. I said that things really seemed to go well. She didn't answer.
Last Friday was the first time she was at my home (we had a date at My Town earlier, but didn't visit my home), where I made a dinner for her. She seemed to like my little place.
It was a very fine evening, with one slightly awkward moment though. At my place, she noted the framed photograph of C., which is on one of the bookshelves above my dinner table. She asked whether that was C. (I had told her the story of C. and me and how C. died earlier) and next asked: "now is she going to stare at me that way all through the dinner?" and made some further remarks the gist of which was that it made her feel uncomfortable. Next she went out for a smoke. I was and am not so willing to remove C.'s portrait. I solved by turning the frame so the photograph faced towards the wall temporarily.
I had one short e-mail contact with Married Woman a week ago. She asked me how the dates with American Teacher Girl are going. I said that things really seemed to go well. She didn't answer.
Labels: C's suicide, C., date, married woman, Teacher girl
posted by LaMa at 9/17/2008 01:10:00 PM
3 Comments:
Yeah, that sort of thing would be rather awkward. With my own situation, actually, I find myself worrying about that sort of thing as well on occasion. . .finding a balance between past and present that everybody can accept is tricky at times.
But I'm glad to hear that things are still going well for you!
I'm glad to hear things are going well with ATG. I thought the picture issue was strange. I don't understand why she was so uncomfortable about the picture of C being present. C was someone who was a big part of your life, and always will be. Hiding the picture doesn't remove her from your life. I think she could have acknowledged the picture and made a comment like "She was very lovely" and then changed the subject so that she was the center of attention whether the picture was there or not. Maybe she's just a bit insecure still. Either way, as long as you are happy with the way things are going, it's all good!
I agree with Jersey Girl about the photo but I guess different people react differently.
I glad that it's all going well for you though and hope it continues to do so!
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